Spiritual Crisis versus Emotional CrisisGord Riddell and Kathy Ryndak RSS May 1, 2013
As the energies in our world, both globally and personally, continue to rapidly change, it is important to be aware of the different meanings behind the terms ‘emotional crisis’ and ‘spiritual crisis’. In order to assist ourselves and perhaps others as they may be responding to energy shifts, we need to understand the subtle differences between these two experiences.
The process of spiritual awakening is most often an uncomfortable and painful event. While many people may have an interest in the spiritual realms or world religions, true spiritual awakening is usually precipitated by an event in an individual’s life. This spiritual crisis involves the physical, mental, and emotional levels of ourselves. As such, it can be confusing for many people, including healthcare providers, as to what is really happening for the individual.
A spiritual crisis is often mistaken for an emotional crisis due the role our emotions play in experiencing the spiritual. It can be hard at times to intellectually describe our spiritual experiences; hence we use emotional language, as it best captures the essence of the spiritual experience. The same then is true of the relationship between emotions and spirit during a spiritual crisis. The emotions do play a big role in bringing us to awakening, but in this instance they are the vehicle towards understanding and are not of themselves the cause of the problem.
An emotional crisis is most often experienced when the emotional energy of an individual has been repressed over a number of years. As a result of increasing pressures and stressors in the individual’s life they are unable to hold in the feelings any longer.
Two things can happen here: one is that the energy will be uncontrollably directed outwardly through cathartic release such as intense crying and/or anger, the other is that the individual could go into a clinical depression whereby not only are the emotions getting locked in further but the physical is affected with sleep problems, weight loss, appetite loss, irritability, lethargy, or low interest in daily life. Again the triggers will include increased internal and external pressures, inadequate coping skills, an inability to access and express emotions in a constructive manner, and the inability to ask for help.
An emotional crisis is often handled by practitioners using counselling techniques and, if need be, medication to keep the individual functioning in daily life. The big risk during an emotional crisis can be the loss of mobility. The focus of an individual in counselling at this time will, for the most part, be looking at the past. It will focus on childhood issues, family of origin, and abuse issues. These will be worked with and tied into how these issues are affecting the individual in their current life experiences. Through release of old pains and the integration of new skills and awareness into their adult life, the individual will be able to move on with their life with a greater sense of self.
A spiritual crisis, while it may look very similar to an emotional crisis, differs in a number of ways. Firstly the crisis is almost always sparked by a loss in the individual’s life. This may be loss of a loved one, a job, a relationship, a diagnosis of illness, or even financial problems. Loss of health includes not only disease or accidents but also addictions. The important thing to look for here in differentiating between an emotional versus a spiritual crisis is the presence of a loss.
At the early stage of the spiritual crisis we can confuse what is happening because the individual will be experiencing a lot of emotions about the loss. As such we may simply equate all these feelings with the grieving process. While there is little doubt grief is present, it is where the individual chooses to go with this in their process. The spiritual crisis forces us to examine our value systems and beliefs. It is an internal drive to seek a deeper meaning for our life and experiences. We will question everything in our life from our job to our relationships, to our friends and activities. Importantly we will question the loss itself and the meaning of it and what we can learn from it.
Again the difference between emotional and spiritual crisis is that the emotional crisis does not move to the questioning of values in the same way. We may ask out loud why certain things happened to us as children but we don’t search for meaning in the same way as we do in a spiritual crisis. As a result of this deeper examination, we have the opportunity to move forward in creating a new lifestyle that is more in line with our evolving sense of values and beliefs. We will have eliminated those aspects which no longer worked for us and incorporate new activities and people which benefit us.
During a spiritual crisis an individual will feel disconnected and cut off from the world. They may even feel zombie-like, going through the motions but not emotionally experiencing anything. It is during this time that a person may describe themselves as not knowing who they are anymore. The danger of confusing a spiritual crisis for an emotional crisis is that if medication is introduced to relieve some of the emotional experience, the spiritual crisis is turned into an emotional one. Thus the awakening of the spiritual self to a more conscious awareness can be halted or at least substantially slowed down and may not begin to reawaken until the conditions are once again right in the individual’s life.
Another big difference is that an emotional crisis is regressive while a spiritual crisis is progressive. One takes us back to the old, the other takes us forward through self-examination. If you suspect an individual or yourself to be experiencing a spiritual crisis/awakening, find help in the form of an individual who understands the difference between an emotional versus spiritual experience and allow that person to give you some feedback and direction during this time. It is important to note we need other knowledgeable people to give us insight and direction during this experience; we do not have to do it alone.
The use of spiritual techniques such as meditation, prayer, chanting, or movement including yoga, dance, connecting with nature are all important tools at this time. The less an individual does for themselves during this time, the longer this crisis/phase will last. Lastly, if you have been given this kind of opportunity to re-examine your life, don’t stop there. Implement the changes you are being urged to do from the inside and enjoy the fruits of your labour. Too many people get the awareness but don’t carry through to make the changes so as to reap the rewards.
There are many people who have begun the process of awareness and self-examination through courses, therapy, and spiritual practices but fail to continue on to see the full extent of the journey that they are being offered to experience through their crisis. A journey that is only just started or half-done leads to a lot of people with half examined levels of awareness and values. In turn this can lead to distorted images of self and harmful value and belief systems. This emergence of the shadow in a journey half travelled will in turn lead us back into another crisis. Our society is based on instant results – think microwaves, text messaging, and e-mails – and then we apply this impatience to our spiritual and therapeutic journeys. A spiritual or therapeutic journey is never about instant results but is carried over our lifetime.
Gord Riddell and Kathy Ryndak are co-founders of the Transformational Arts College of Spiritual and Holistic Training. The College offers professional training programs in Spiritual Psychotherapy, Spiritual Director, Holistic Health, and Coaching. For more information or for a course calendar, call 416-484-0454 or 1-800-TAC-SELF, or visit www.transformationalarts.com. To receive their monthly e-newsletter, email firstname.lastname@example.org