Living Life at a Higher Vibration (part 2)Gord Riddell and Kathy Ryndak RSS September 1, 2013
It is often possible to reach a high vibration during meditation practice, but how can we live life more consistently at a higher frequency every day? A couple of months ago, in the June issue of Vitality magazine, we looked at ways to raise our vibration – by coming from love, not fear; practising gratitude; choosing joy; being around uplifting people; creating sacred space; appreciating beauty; and coming from source. One main reason for wanting to live at a higher vibration is that it makes us feel good! Now let’s explore more ideas to raise our energy.
Am I Being Kind is both the title of a book by Michael J. Chase and a Buddhist principle in practising meta kindness. Chase states that “asking one simple question can change your life and the world.” All negative emotions dissipate with kindness. It is a question that can be asked several times throughout your day and acts as a check so that you don’t slip into negative feelings or behaviours. For example, even though there is a long line-up at the check-out do you treat the cashier in an unfriendly way or with kindness? Kindness moves us out of self-centredness and selfishness.
However, kindness begins with you as you want to treat yourself kindly first. This means being gentle with yourself and thinking kind and loving thoughts. It means forgiving yourself when you mess up, silencing your critic when it takes over, and loving yourself unconditionally.
When applying this to others we need to refrain from thinking nasty thoughts. Instead of gossiping, speak kindly about others. We also need to extend kindness to our animals, every little critter, and to the Earth. Ram Dass says “Treat everyone you meet like God in drag.” This acknowledges that the divine exists in all but comes in different shapes and forms without our judgment interfering.
In Buddhist loving-kindness meditation, we foster this state with our self, a loved one, a neutral person, and a difficult person. We then do this with all of the above and extend loving kindness to the universe.
How do you respond when life sends you a curve ball or someone hurts or betrays you? When we are hurt we need to go through an emotional process to heal in order to move forward. The happiest people are those who can bounce back and re-engage in life. Some people can get stuck licking their wounds and proclaim, as the song goes, “I’ll never fall in love again.” This means they are stuck in victimhood – a very disempowering state.
Think about the survivors of Hurricane Sandy, the Boston Marathon attack, and the Albertan floods. These are very strong and resilient people! Resilience does not mean that you deny your grief but work through it to heal. You are able to cope with change and adjust. Gregg Braden states that “resilience is a return to healthy functioning after stress and being able to thrive in change.”
Being in the Present Moment
This spiritual concept was extolled in E. Tolle’s book, The Power of Now, and Ram Dass’ book, Be Here Now. It means that we are not living in the past or projecting into the future. We have to deal with our unfinished business to truly live in the present. We only need to watch our pets to learn how to “be here now.” A dog can be fully engaged in the moment in looking out a window to watch the stirrings of nature and wild life.
When we are in the present, we can get lost in the activity that we are involved with just like a child at play. Can you remember the wonderful feeling you had while playing as a child for a whole afternoon that would drift by in a moment? You were 100% absorbed in playing without any distractions. We can also summon this state when we are engrossed in creative endeavours such as writing or painting. Time flies by!
When we are in the present, our minds are still and the incessant inner chatter stops. We don’t think negative thoughts or worry. To get still inside, centre in your heart chakra by touching it with your hand. You can even chant the vowel sound ‘ah’ to support this.
Patience is a virtue and it is difficult for most to master. It means we are accepting of a person or situation rather than resisting it or becoming frustrated. That’s why we have children and elderly parents! Just contrast the turmoil inside when you are impatient versus accepting of a situation. With the latter, you have a sense of calmness and peace rather than over-reacting and letting your buttons be pushed. When we are impatient we are only hurting ourselves for our vibration drops considerably.
Every day there are countless opportunities to practise patience whether it is a traffic jam, a screaming child, or a person who is not ‘getting it’ as fast as we want them to. We realize that we can’t change people or control certain things at our speed and to our liking. Patience is an act of love and kindness which needs to be practised for ourselves too.
When there is harmony in the family, workplace, our lives, and internally we feel good. Things seem to tick along accompanied by that ‘all is well’ feeling. There is a sense of flow and being guided by the universe. All parts of the system are working together leading to more synergy.
Internally, there are no wars with one part of our personality fighting with another part. We are being guided by source instead of a misaligned subpersonality or archetype. Hence, we are more loving and treat ourselves and others better. It is important to strive for harmony in order to correct potential conflict that might occur. When we are in conflict, we need to do our best to work out things instead of insisting who is right or wrong.
Living in a higher vibration lets us reside in higher octave energies and makes us feel so good!
Gord Riddell and Kathy Ryndak are co-founders of the Transformational Arts College of Spiritual and Holistic Training. The College offers professional training programs in Spiritual Psychotherapy, Spiritual Director, Holistic Health, and Coaching. For more information or for a course calendar, call 416-484-0454 or 1-800-TAC-SELF, or visit www.transformationalarts.com. To receive their monthly e-newsletter, email firstname.lastname@example.org