Learn to Live with PassionGord Riddell and Kathy Ryndak RSS December 1, 2006
In every person there dwells an incredible force called passion. For many it is experienced occasionally in small bursts of energy. For others it is a lived sense of inner power propelling the person forward with a vigour and commitment in all they do. Passion is an outward expression of our Spiritual self which fuels our inner energy. Those living with passion have intense and long lasting energy reserves. They do not tire easily as they are being recharged continuously by their spirit.
It is said that by living our passion all our material needs are somehow magnetically drawn to us and we will be fulfilled; however tapping into the passion of our Spirit is not easy. Many have difficulties in identifying what makes them feel passionate, excited, and alive.
We all have interests that hold our attention and get us excited, but our passion can be blocked by our egos and belief systems. For many people, the lack of spiritual energy and not living with their passions can cause feelings of lethargy and depression – even illness. But living our passion puts us into a spiritual alignment assisting us at every level of mind, body, and soul. This is a spiritual belief system of the interconnectedness of all aspects of our life from Health to Happiness.
IDENTIFYING OUR PASSIONS
It is important to recognize that unless we identify our passions, planning a vision or goal to work towards will be difficult to attain. To help identify our passions we must be willing to let go of our inner judgments, our list of ‘shoulds’, and our learned belief system of how life is supposed to be. We need to put aside what we think other people expect of us. This is a lot to put aside, but these are all the things that stand in the way of getting in touch with some of our passions.
Here are some tips on how to tap into your passion:
1) In a calm state remember some of your childhood interests. What about your childhood dreams? As you remember them perhaps you have already done some of them and are living them. Some dreams may have been discouraged by others as impractical. Remember those ones as well. They were other people’s beliefs about you and may not be true in the least.
2) On a sheet of paper write down these old memories and see if they are still things that excite you. These may form the basis for some of your passions today as an adult.
3) On another page let your imagination run wild and list all the things that make you feel excited, energized, and creative. Do not edit yourself, simply let everything flow through your mind onto paper. Do this in your own handwriting rather than on a computer. It can be much more powerful to see things this way.
4) When you are finished, go over your list and see what you wrote. How do you experience this list of things that excite you? You may feel excited or you may have an inner critical voice poking at the silliness of this exercise as well your list. Ignore the critical voice!
5) What things from this list are in your life today? Perhaps you are one of the few who are living their passion. From your list, what would you like to see happen in your life? Have you tried to bring your passions into your life without success?
WHAT MOTIVATES YOU
We also need to look at how the ego and belief system interacts with our ability to live our passions. An easy way is to identify what motivates us. This requires us to be very honest with ourselves (even when we may not want to be) in order to know what keeps us going in the direction we have been going. We need to know what payoffs we get from some of our interests and behaviours.
Payoffs are crucial aspects of our self because we only do things that have a payback that feeds our ego. If someone says their passion is to heal the planet it will only be successful if their motivators are incorporated into the overall plan of action. Regretfully very few people are so completely altruistic that their ego doesn’t need recognition in their life. Everything we do has a payoff of some sort. We only stop doing things in our life when there is no longer a payoff.
A motivator may be money, recognition, a sense of feeling loved and appreciated, or not feeling pain or discomfort. They are all tied to the ego and its perception of the world. There is no judgment here; it is a human reality that we must come to terms with. All of our behaviour is tied to this perception of how we handle the world. Now write down what you believe motivates your behaviour and interaction in your world. This is not an easy exercise but it is a necessary one.
Once you have done this exercise take a look at your passions and see where your motivators fit in. If you wish to bring your passions into your life they need to be able to incorporate your motivators. While your Spirit and Ego may seem to be opposing forces, they can be reconciled to work together and move you into a life more in line with the passion of Spirit and the strength of Ego. For example, if your passion is to work with children, what might your motivator be?
Perhaps they make you feel loved and appreciated. Passion for animals? Perhaps it is their unconditional love you are motivated by. Perhaps the vulnerability of children and animals makes you feel strong and powerful, or in control. This is not to say that your love for children or animals is not there; the question at a deeper level is what do you get out of this interest?
When you can take your list of passions and list of motivators and begin to match them up, you are on your way to living your passions. Reconciling your spirit and your ego needs (as both are vitally important) leads to all sorts of wonderful changes, realizations, and achieved passions. A reality check on our passions is also important. Perhaps you want to pursue your childhood dream of becoming a brain surgeon, but since you are now 55 years old, this is not realistic. It was do-able at 21. There needs to be the reality of where you are today on your journey as to the viability of your passionate interests. Variations are possible to fit with your reality. Perhaps this will help make your New Years resolution a bit easier to make happen this year.
Happy Holidays from everyone at Transformational Arts!
Gord Riddell and Kathy Ryndak are co-founders of the Transformational Arts College of Spiritual and Holistic Training. The College offers professional training programs in Spiritual Psychotherapy, Spiritual Director, Holistic Health, and Coaching. For more information or for a course calendar, call 416-484-0454 or 1-800-TAC-SELF, or visit www.transformationalarts.com. To receive their monthly e-newsletter, email email@example.com