Conscious Living: Becoming a Sacred Human – Meeting Our Beloved

Kathy Ryndak, Gord Riddell

Meeting our beloved we become the sacred human and, along the way, heaven and earth meet inside us.

No one understood the concept of the ‘Beloved’ better than Rumi, the 13th century ecstatic Sufi mystic and poet.  Embracing the Beloved is not just following the spiritual path of love but also the path of higher truth. To start, here are some excerpts from Rumi’s poetry that convey the seed of this concept:

If you are unwilling to undress, don’t enter into the stream of Truth.
Do you want to enter Paradise? To walk the path of Truth you need the grace of God.
We all face death in the end. But on the way, be careful to never hurt a human heart.
To be unaware of the wonders that exist in me, that is real madness!
Behind the veils I will find such Splendor, such Beauty that I will fall in love with Myself.

Glamour and Illusion

There is much glamour, illusion and myth associated with this archetype. Most of us think the ‘Beloved’ is someone outside of ourselves, someone who will fall madly in love with us, forever bringing us eternal bliss and ecstasy. We fantasize that we will actually meet our Divine Lover just as Krishna, the Hindu God, came to the women of the villages, intoxicating them with his presence, lovemaking, and passion. However, he would quickly move on to the next and their waves of orgasm soon turned into a longing for his embrace. Since he would never return, their longing turned into an excruciating torment that they believed could only be filled by him.

Little did they know that a Divine Lover, like Krishna, can never really exist; rather we must find our own Sacred Lover within.

Rumi and the Beloved

Rumi, of 13th Century Persia (now Afghanistan), met his internal Beloved through his encounters with Shams of Tabriz, a whirling Sufi dervish who walked the path of love. Shams had been searching all his life for someone who could truly understand him and  he found that in Rumi. Shams rattled Rumi’s psyche greatly and encouraged him to walk away from his spiritual intellectual teachings. Instead he would meet God through experience, insight, music, dance and poetry. Shams and Rumi spent two years in seclusion meditating and having great spiritual discussions.

Shams then mysteriously disappeared from Rumi’s life after the death of Shams’ newly wedded wife, Kimia. Rumi experienced the agonizing loss of his most beloved friend, Shams, and he expressed his grief through his mystical poetry. Eventually he realized that Shams was only a projection of the longing for his true self, his own inner Beloved, whom Shams so clearly mirrored.

We will never meet our Beloved in the deluded lover’s game that “it” exists in another, outside of ourselves. Author and mystic Jacquelyn Small says that: “all the glamorous notions of how ‘Divine Love’ works need to be cleansed from our emotional lives if we are to actually meet our Inner Beloved. We’ll project God-like images onto one another, but we’ll find that there is no human being that can make Divine Love to us.”

When we realize this, and usually it’s painful, we are well on our way to meeting our Inner Beloved. However, it requires us to become deeply aware and conscious of our internal landscape through the process of purification and transformation.

Divine Feminine and Sacred Masculine

One of the most crucial steps in meeting our Beloved involves becoming aware of the contrasexual other half within our psyche, which completes our soul. This is the marriage of the male or female within, also known as the animus/anima in Jungian terms, which balances our polarities. The Beloved embodies the soul’s desire for union with its highest expression.

Your archetypal feminine side is intuitive, receptive, reflective, emotional, nurturing, caring, creative, spontaneous, relational, and it leads with the heart. Your archetypal masculine side takes action, is logical, rational, strategic, discriminates, orderly, and it differentiates, focuses, and defines. The feminine lures the masculine onto the spiritual path. She is more inspired and magical. He is more pragmatic and provides assertion and power.

When our male and female sides merge, we have a sacred marriage within and we become our own Sacred Lover. Archetypically, this is an ecstatic, blissful and rapturous reunion. Once we have found our own inner lover, we become re-engaged in life in a passionate way, with all of our senses on fire. Life once again becomes enchanting, full of awe and wonder. Trebe Johnson has written a book about this, appropriately titled The World is a Waiting Lover.

Beauty and Pleasure

We are in awe of all the beauty on our planet, and we can also see the beauty within the darkness that is waiting to be transformed. We relish the pleasures in life but, unlike Dionysus, we indulge in moderation. We can see the sacredness in everyday life; even something as simple as walk becomes an experience of connection to the divinity alive in nature all around us.

We acknowledge that sexuality, creativity, and spirituality are all part of the same continuum; they’re just different octaves of the same energy. The passion of the Beloved regenerates our life; we literally fall in love with ourselves and, as Rumi says, we find the wonders and splendors within. No one can ever take your Beloved away, and it will never abandon you. This is the perfect way to heal abandonment, separation, and loneliness.

Sacred Human

Through the journey of meeting our Beloved we become the Sacred Human, and along the way heaven and earth meet inside us. It is such a delicious way of being as we honour the fact that we are both human and spirit, with one not being better than the other. We can delight in being ordinarily human. Life can be mundane, painful or challenging, and we accept this as the spectrum of existence on earth.

In addition to discussing these concepts on a personal level, just imagine applying these principles globally. Certainly, we would see the beauty of all races and creeds, ethnic groups and species, and would care deeply for Gaia, our Beloved Planet which has been going through so much environmental duress.

We are optimistic and hopeful that the emergence of the Beloved within will help to heal our planet. It will be the union of the pro-action of the Sacred Masculine and the compassion and nurturing of the Divine Feminine that will evolve, transform and save our world. We leave you with these last words from Rumi:

The time has come to turn your heart into a temple of fire. Your essence is gold hidden in dust.
To reveal its splendor, you need to burn in the fire of love.

Gord Riddell and Kathy Ryndak are co-founders of the Transformational Arts College of Spiritual and Holistic Training. The College offers professional training programs in Spiritual Psychotherapy, Spiritual Director, Holistic Health, and Coaching. For more information or for a course calendar, call 416-484-0454 or 1-800-TAC-SELF, or visit To receive their monthly e-newsletter, email

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