Road Blocks to Success – And How to Get Around ThemGeorgina Cannon, D.MsC, M.NLP, M.Ht May 1, 2007
“If you advance confidently in the direction of your dreams and endeavour to live the life which you have imagined, you will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”
Henry David Thoreau
What is it that causes us to give up before we’ve even started? Why do we give in to apathy and resignation? Why do we over-invest in the outcome of our endeavour to such an extent that we are drained, debilitated and full of self doubt when it doesn’t go the way we want it to? Because, like a child, very often, we really do want the world to work the way we want it to… right now!
It’s typically because we allow ourselves to be hindered by limiting beliefs of what is good and what is bad. What is working and what isn’t.
Often when we hit a roadblock, we claim the process isn’t working, when in truth it is. It has just shown us that that direction contains a road block, and we need to go another way. If you hit a road block when you’re driving to work, you don’t just give up going to work, you find another way of getting there. That’s life!”
We set ourselves up for stress and pain when we assume that if things don’t go the way we expect them to, they are wrong. As Carolyn Myss says, “Something that happens or doesn’t happen today, that makes no sense, may be laying the groundwork for something that will happen five months or five years from now.”
So how do we get beyond the frustration, doubt, anxiety and fear that we feel when our world doesn’t go the way we want it to?
Pretend you’re an eagle. Rise above the situation and look at it from a different point of view. Take the long look, fly around a while looking at things from that point of view, see situations and opportunities you hadn’t noticed from the ground. From the long view, see who or what else is looking for the same thing you are, and maybe you can combine your efforts. Rise above the issue and yourself to get the bigger picture. Once you’ve done that you can take the following steps to clarify goals and develop your strategies to achieve those goals.
1) Close your eyes, relax, and allow yourself to be open to all possibilities.
2) Imagine how you look when you have achieved your goal.
3) Feel success, feel the energy surrounding you when you discover that success
4) Hear others around you congratulating you on achieving your goal.
5) Now move yourself right into that picture of success, feel your body shift and change.
6) Look back from that time of success to now, and notice the change in the thought process and the steps you took to get you to that success.
7) Notice how you decide differently.
8) Look and see what were the first three steps you took on your path to success.
9) Make a commitment to take those steps within the next three days.
10) Open your eyes, write down your commitment. And you are ready now, to get going!
5 WAYS TO TRANSITION THROUGH CHANGE
When we reach a ceiling of growth, we can experience a plateau or void where growth seems to stop. We feel as if we’re alone and that life is passing us by. We want to push forward, but nothing we try seems to work. When we are in a void, all our options seem closed off; tools we used before simply don’t work. Even positive thinking or energy medicine seem to have no effect on moving energy. We all encounter cycles of change where we need to dump the old, analyze what works and what doesn’t. Sometimes we need to wait for a new cycle of growth just as in nature.
Here are some tools for getting unstuck and for transitioning into a new cycle of growth with more grace and ease:
1) Know where you are now… exactly where you are. You need to write down where you are stuck. Be very detailed about it. Make the lists under the headings: I’m stuck physically here (include all the feelings this ‘stuckness’ gives you). I’m stuck emotionally here. I’m stuck intellectually here. I’m stuck spiritually here. If you wish you could add to this, where you are stuck in relationships, family, career and life skills.
2) Take a sheet of paper and divide it down the middle. On one side, write Plus Energy; on the other side write Minus Energy. Now make a list of all the people you come in contact with on a regular basis who add to your energy, and who take energy from you.
3) Make a list of the things you do or say to yourself, which give you energy, and which deplete your energy. For instance, do you really need to see the 11 pm news? Do you munch on candy or drink more than a glass of wine each evening, leaving you to feel draggy in the morning? Do you feel better – or worse about yourself after seeing a particular friend?
4) Next sheet of paper. List the numbers, 1 to 52. Next to each number, write down one small thing that you commit to do each week to move the Minus Energy item over to the Plus side. For instance, if you have a friend who, although is seemingly a very nice and kind person, somehow always makes you feel ‘less than’ after you’ve seen her or him, then decide what you’re going to do about it. You might not want to give up the friendship totally, but instead of meeting for dinner, maybe you meet for a movie, and there’s less time for toxic talk. All it takes is one small change a week, moving in the right direction, to change your life. As you begin to change your world, one small step at a time, you will find it becomes easier and easier to make larger changes. Anyone can do one small thing a week!
5) Visualise you being the best you can be. Use self-hypnosis to invent the life you want and install it into your subconscious mind. If you don’t know how to do this, find a hypnotist in your area and ask them to teach you. It shouldn’t take more than one or two sessions in their clinic. As you do this, it becomes the blueprint for your actions, thoughts and behaviours, so that both consciously and subconsciously you are moving with positive energy towards the new you!
Hang this 52-week promise to yourself on the fridge, or somewhere you will see it everyday. Celebrate your life, your time on this planet, and the magnificent human being that you are!
One small change at a time.